November 15, 2012 | Relationships, Truth | 4 Comments


Oh give thanks to the Lord, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever!”

                                                                                                                                   ~Psalm 107:1

I was going through my journals a few months ago & came across this poem I wrote when I was 17 years old. It caught my eye because, unlike my husband, I NEVER write poems. I can’t rhyme worth a lick! (Let’s just say that the poetry section sophomore year in my English class was the t-o-u-g-h-e-s-t part of English during my entire education. I can rhyme “cat, bat, sat, mat” but that’s about it.) Nevertheless, I must have had a lot of emotion running through me that night.

 April 29, 2005

“Praying, hoping, waiting

for one to open his eyes

and see her

the invisible one

who no one dares to


She waits

And prays,

“God, when?”

He whispers,

“Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord”

Psalm 27:14

See, I didn’t date anyone until Jeff, when I was 22. Throughout high school and college I had really hard seasons when I thought I couldn’t wait one moment longer. I never got asked out on a date. I had friends, great friends, but no one that pursued me. Looking back now, I’m so thankful for how God orchestrated my dating life. However during it, I definitely had moments of despair.

But I’m hear to tell you that our God is F-A-I-T-H-F-U-L.

He sees you.

He knows you.

He is present.

And He is at work in your life, working all things together in His perfect plan.

Psalm 107:1 says “Oh give thanks to the Lord, for He is good, for His steadfast love endures forever!” Then it goes on to say “Let the redeemed of the Lord say so”. I am  here to “say so!” His love does endure forever; His love never ends.

I was brought to tears when I read this journal entry because exactly 7 years later, on April 29, 2012 Jeff asked me to marry him, if he could love and serve me for the rest of my life. God gave him the “nod”, as my dad always said, and Jeff pursued me. I wrote in my journal the day after,

April 30, 2012

“Lord, you know my heart and all the years I’ve longed to be married, all the hours I’ve spent praying for my future husband- You’ve seen me. You know me. You walk with me. And now it’s in the light- known. You’ve blessed Jeff in my life, and in Your beautiful and perfect way You’ve brought us together. You’ve written our love story and it’s absolutely beautiful. God, I feel like You made Jeff for me- when You created him, You had me in mind.”

It is so good to wait on the Lord.

For His timing.

His leading.

He writes the best love stories.

So rest in Him. He’s got it. Let him write your story, in His time, in His way. It’ll be way beyond your wildest dreams.

BUT. BELOVED. There is even GREATER news than resting in the love story He may have for you one day.

He’s already written the greatest love story of all. And you’re apart of it. 

He chose you. He came for you. He wants you. He died on the cross, rose again, so He could have you, and marry you. He is our true Husband.

Isaiah 54:5 AMP
“For your Maker is your Husband—the Lord of hosts is His name—and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; the God of the whole earth He is called.”

If you’re in Christ, you already have the greatest and most beautiful, and fulfilling, love story, EVER.

Run to your Savior- your Husband. And rejoice in His great, and never ending love, for YOU.

Our relationship with Jesus is forever. As wonderful as marriage is, it’s only a glimpse of our eternal relationship with our Savior.


Can you relate to my poem? What is God teaching you in your waiting? How has God shown you that He is indeed faithful?  

Why is the truth that God is our Husband such good news?


Here is the book that helped me the most in these times

Trusting God by Jerry Bridges


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    Victoria Lassiter

    January 28, 2014

    Thank you so much for posting this Alyssa! This is really helping me out. I am a Sophomore in college and have never had a boyfriend before, and in highschool in all honesty being single never bothered me. I went to a secular school and I didn’t have any christian friends there. I had guy friends, and they were sweet but I knew I wanted to date a Godly man, not someone of the world. It wasn’t until I got to college last year that I noticed my singleness. I attend a college ministry called Baptist Student Ministry at the University of Delaware! I love it, all my friends are great. I have wonderful mentors, a great campus minister and beautiful brothers and sisters in Christ. I started noticing though that so many people in BSM are dating others in BSM or elsewhere, and plenty have met and gotten married through this wonderful ministry God has blessed me and so many others with. That is when I started noticing, and it is hard. I am in no rush, but I do long for a Godly man. I often worry about getting married at age 40 or something (sounds silly, I know) but my mom just turned 40 and Im 19 and just all that stuff and she was my age when she met my dad and they got married the year after and just celebrated their 20th this past June, so a lot of that swirls inside my head a lot. I am trying to be content with my singleness and focus on falling deeper in love with God and wait for his good and perfect timing. But not really wait, just to fall in love with him that hopefully I don’t even worry about it. But thank you for posting this. :) Have a great day! God bless you and Jeff :P

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    Tomi Oleye

    December 22, 2013

    Thank you so much for posting this! I am right now in a place of realization that I need to work on seeing god as my ultimate husband before I seek any man. Just watching you and Jeff’s live stream video about dating really made me do some soul searching. Right now I am on the hunt to find a good and strong youth ministry to really sink myself into. But in regards to your post, haha, I feel the same way sometimes. I have only had one boyfriend up until now that I am in college. I see other people’s love stories and covet it sometimes, but I want to have more confidence in the lord, that he knows my story and in his timing, the “right person” will be in my life.

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    December 19, 2013

    This blog post is exactly what I am going through. I read this for encouragement during the hard seasons. Thank you for blessing me with this!!!!

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    Tori Strickland

    December 2, 2013

    This has really impacted me, i want to thank you for sharing this. I am going through what you went through in college and it is so hard to wait. I am a sophomore in College and i have had a few boyfriends but nothing serious and i have never been in love. I am a strong christian but it is so hard and difficult to see my close friends and family all find love and me just sit there an still wait. It is very hard for me and i have nights where i wonder if God really hears me praying. I love love so much, and i know Jesus is my husband and everything i ever need but sometimes it is hard to believe that when i see my best friends find their wonderful Godly men and i never do. I feel like you went through this feeling before finding jeff and i was wondering if you had any advice for me or helpful pointers on how to stay faithful and keep waiting. THank you!

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